79: Domestic Violence & Evangelical Churches. Guest: Neil Schori

This episode contains content that may be difficult for those who have experienced violence or who are sensitive to mentions of abuse or intimate partner violence. Please take care when listening.

In 2007, Pastor Neil Schori sat down with a woman who had come to him for marriage counseling. You probably recognize her name: Stacy Peterson.

Not long after that conversation, Stacy when missing and still has not been found.

Her husband, Drew Peterson, is serving time in prison for being convicted of murdering his previous wife.

Pastor Neil joins the Untangled Faith podcast to share his thoughts on the Steven Crowder video, what he wishes he had known about intimate partner violence and what friends and faith community leaders need to know to be safe places for those who may not even know they are in danger.

In this episode, we talk about:

  • The multiple facets of abuse go beyond bodily injury.

  • The necessity of pastors to possess the right skills to manage abusive scenarios.

  • Red flags the signal abuse situations.

  • Empowering victims

  • How incorrect theology is harming those being abused.

What you’ll learn:

In this episode, Pastor Neil shares his personal story of working with victims of abuse, as well as his insights on how pastors and other faith leaders can better respond to this issue. He also discusses the importance of empowering victims and challenging incorrect theology that can harm those who are being abused.


  • Abuse is a complex issue that can manifest in many different ways.
  • Pastors and other faith leaders have a critical role to play in responding to abuse.
  • There are many resources available to help victims of abuse.
  • It is important to challenge incorrect theology that can harm those who are being abused.

Call to action:

If you or someone you know is struggling with abuse, please reach out for help. There are many resources available, and you don’t have to go through this alone.


Document the Abuse website: https://documenttheabuse.com

Neil Schori on Twitter: https://twitter.com/neilschori

Neil Schori coaching: https://www.facebook.com/SchoriCoaching

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